Your clothes are not messages ... To make them more effective communication to get along with your words!

Dress properly with the context and the role they play, is to be congruent with your purpose, especially in the workplace.

Your clothes can communicate messages and consider them to completion as you behave and how you speak. 

The more in tune with what you really want to convey the more you are successful in your communication. 

This is because communication is not just words but also in appearance and behavior, ie the image of "something" that you see.

A suitable image reinforces your message and makes it clear at first glance, like an arrow that point straight to its objective.

Unfortunately, like it or not, there are situations in life where the first impression is what counts.

Especially in the working world, where time is always reduced and tune the first time with those around you can save a lot of time, both you and those who have to do with you.

It 'clear that the next step will be to truly demonstrate the goodness of the contents of which carrier you do but if you're sincere, thanks to a good first impression, you have already captured 70% of your goal.

This is because visual communication is what is most impressed, while the report is later.

However, if your appearance does not match the authenticity of your content, in practice, you will be exposed as soon as possible and served with what you deserve.

Many people, however, left open the question of the image because they consider it a superficial act. But we understand that only if we limit ourselves to that, the only image that is an end in itself, without taking into account the content.

As we know that mind and body affect each other, making sure that our outward appearance should be in agreement with our thoughts, is an advantage for those who listen to those who must make themselves understood.

Point directly to the content regardless of the image and the form makes sense in a private, intimate, with who knows us and we have confidence.

But in a workplace or any public, even if our intentions are good, we can not claim to be included on the fly.

For example, if we come in jeans and sneakers to an important meeting where we need to send messages such as authority and reliability, convince others of something, or uncomfortable news to pass, we would very presence was probably not very credible.

It is a cliché is true, but is so named because it just felt and understood by anyone!

The quality of communication between people is always less than what we expect for many reasons: lack of attention, thoughts, and liabilities mean that active listening and then public attention is very intermittent.

That's why dressing in a manner appropriate to the message you want to transmit, capture the attention of your audience and saves time, because your image unconsciously leads them into what you want to say and communicate.

Of course you must also understand the context in which you are moving, that is, if you're in a very formal, what are the habits of your superiors and what they expect from you, how long have you been in that "environment.

You have to understand in practice what the 'image of the corporate group or company where you belong, which is its visual identity, recognizable to anyone at a glance.

If you work in the creative sector or type fashion show there is certainly more freedom of expression, but these areas have their own type of language.

So when you get into the action, ask yourself these four questions:

·                                  Who are you and your role in that particular context?

·                                  What do you want to transmit to others, what is your message?

·                                  What do you mean you will get from others with your message?

·                                  What is the best way and so what can you serve for your purpose.

In this respect, use the ' most appropriate dress is definitely a winning feature, as well as one more card to play at your disposal. 

What do you think? Do you agree? What to add to all this or what should not share it? Waiting for your comments.

Dress with style increases your visibility

Whether we like it or not, we live in a world where appearance and communication have a crucial role, at least at first glance.

Today, not enough of the knowledge acquired during a normal schooling or skills learned through years of work and courses.

If you want to get more attention from the other, in practice if you emerge, you must not only "know" but also be” visible".

To do this required as more and more sophisticated, such as self-confidence, charm, charisma, style and image.

All qualities that can be summarized in one word: Personal Brand.

The Personal Brand is your "brand", the set of elements and factors that distinguish you and represent your uniqueness.

This does not mean you have to think only in appearance, want to look at all costs without investing in the contents of your person.

Indeed, in my opinion, just because there is a high-profile image that comes to us from the mass culture, nowadays only those echoes of serious content, interesting and useful is really different!

But this difference is even more successful if it takes account of parameters is now essential, such as those just related to our image.

So, they are certainly fundamental content, but you must also know how to express it right.

Dressing with style is part of this communication process. If you've already read my "5 lectures of style you see here at your side, you already know that style does not mean having to dress with designer clothes, or at least not necessarily.

The style is a harmony between your personality and the context in which you are. It means to feel good about yourself and your surroundings.

If you dress in your spare time freely to taste and inspiration of the moment, there are times in life when dressing elegantly and with style is important as well as useful, because it reinforces your message.

Especially in the workplace, where issues of time often the first impression are what counts, your clothes can be one more card to play in your favor.

In this case, even if you're a serious professional and know everything there is to know about your work, introduce a "packaging" anonymous resigned or worse you will not be of help, because the first memory is imprinted in the minds of people is "visual."

It 'clear that in a second analysis would be preferable not to disprove, because then find out that "under his coat," there's nothing (in the words of the title of a film of the 80s) is not only sad, very embarrassing.

So spend some 'time to figure out how to value, focusing on your strengths and forget what you call flaws (not so much because you can change them and no one is free), we are seeing, doing the tests, and then choosing only what is really for you, is an investment not only for your work, but also for your self-esteem.

Write me your comments, tell me what you think.

Want to become more attractive? Improve your nonverbal communication!

Have you ever wondered what you do when you meet someone you like and decide you want to like it too?

Suddenly it's like in your brain turning on a red light that warns your whole body.

All of your muscles and your nerves are suddenly awakened to perform a very special mission: to become more attractive in seconds!

In this case make that kind of communication is commonly called a "nonverbal" and that is the way you move, the expression on your face, your look, tone and volume of your voice.

The function of this type of communication is to express emotions, feelings, moods easily and thus remains in the memory of people, even more than the meaning of words uttered during a dialogue.

In this sense, your clothes, your physical appearance and the way you present yourself fall into this sphere of communication.

But beyond wanting to please someone or not (it was an example to give a good idea of how and when the non-verbal communication is activated very well) take a casual non-verbal language, that feel safe and comfortable in the way speak with others, significantly increases your ability to pull in every field from the personal to the professional.

You will certainly have in fact, to meet people for nothing physically attractive and maybe even too well dressed but incredibly attractive, and with that I do not know that make you special to me want to know who they are and to know them.

Try to think why you attract and you like, what are their characteristics. ...Definitely know how to use their non-verbal language very well.

And now instead of trying to remember as you are when communicating with others as you move, how he gestures, how you speak, how you smile, as you move your eyes, how your breath ... if you're upset / anxious / relaxed.

It is clear that much depends on the situation where you are, but it is also true that in any case, if you really want to gain effective communication must aim to implement a communication "attractive" and then you improve your nonverbal communication. Begins:

·                                  First you learn to observe deeply and accept. When you accept, you learn to like even more. To please you is the main source of attraction for others.

·                                  Get possession of the space around you, in the sense that you should not stand in a corner, but to hear that you're there, obviously without being intrusive.

               To use your body consciously, which is to indulge your thoughts with the right moves: you want to express safety and positive? Adopt an open posture with shoulders straight, stride and look proud!

·                                  Exercised to control your breathing, the more you are relaxed and the more you are able to control your behavior

·                                  Smile more, without wanting to please at all costs. What does this mean? It means that if all goes well and there are no problems, you can give some smiles to those in most close to you! 

·                                  Establish a connection with everything around you that seeks to understand the context in which you are to feel comfortable.

·                                  When you talk about, think about transferring emotions and not just concepts: the active expression of your face, your eyes, and your smile.

·                                  Learn to modulate the tone of voice, rhythm and the volume to annoy people in front of you.

·                                  Occurs depending on the situation and degree confidence, the spatial proximity between you and the people you talk to or have to do: too close or too vigorous may be out of place, not understood or do not like.

·                                  Enhance your appearance and taking care of your body by adopting a dress code that will improve .... To do this you can download my 5 free style classes that you find here next!

And you, at which point you in improving your nonverbal communication? 

          Already an experienced person? Send me your comments and tell me what are your strategiesfor becoming more attractive! 

5 strategic moves to be convincing

We should not necessarily practice as seller to be in situations where we need to convince others of something.

In fact, if you think about it are many cases in life where you need to be convincing, because we are not so much whether we will certainly be someone else for us.

This does not mean to reduce human relationships to a fight for being right, indeed!

There will be live but certainly have moments where it is appropriate or even necessary, pull out all the 'intelligence and diplomacy that you have to solve thorny issues as important or that you hold dear, such as:

·                                  ASK AN INCREASE OF SALARY

·                                  DISCUSS A MATTER OF BUSINESS

·                                  DEFINING A STRATEGY FOR WORKING WITH A GROUP

·                                  MANAGING A COURSE OF DEALING OR PRIVATE WORK

·                                  ADDRESSING A QUARREL BETWEEN HUSBAND AND WIFE

Certainly we're going very well content to be addressed, but it is also vital that we learn to improve as well the way we relate with each other. Here, then, how about some technique of persuasion, although we are not sellers, could be of great use to extricate himself from difficult situations and complicated.

The 5 steps that follow can be taken which aim to try to be more convincing, however, can not manipulate others.

1. Learning how to manage the silence and pauses.

Contrary to popular belief, who dominates the situation is not the person who took the floor, but what remains silent as long as possible and know when it intervenes to manage well the pauses of speech. This means giving as much about each other the opportunity to attack and criticize.

Better to let the first word to another and then when we will be forced to intervene, always use a calm voice and calm but firm voice and secure.

Some people involved say "Well ..." followed by a pause. This presupposes that the topic of which one wants to speak has been thorough and the subsequent pause gives way to who stands before us to take a breath and relax with us.

2. Adopt a slow gestures.

Staying calm helps not to create another state of alert, and then to be more convincing. If we speak and move nervously, easily turn into who we are faced with a critical sense to us as well as a need to defend himself.

In addition he will perceive our own insecurity and why you feel rewarded. If, however, we adopt an apparent calm, he can not help but note that our motives are serious and that we are absolutely convinced of our actions.

3. Do not tilt the head because it means insecurity.

Often you to convince someone, subconsciously Tilt your head sideways, almost as if to wish him pleasure. Gesture that the other perceives as a symptom of insecurity now and then as an excellent opportunity to dismantle them.

However, it remains still, looking in front of us with the right head, the impression we give is of a confident person and the other does not feel the need to contradict. If we feel stressed about the situation, you may want to rely on something that is close to us as the backrest, the armrests of the chair or the table because it helps us to remain more stables both mentally and in his voice.

4. Do not try to be nice at all costs.

It often happens that during a negotiation who tries to be funny at any cost, get exactly the opposite effect. So better not to give us smiles no reason why our party might have the feeling of being manipulated or tricked, and then feel the need to defend himself by putting in place a mechanism of denial.

The sympathy is earned and the smile must succeed at a later time, when we get that for which we are fighting.

Moreover, if our attitude toward the one that should give us something positive is no reason too, that someone, seeing that smile, think that all is well and that there is no reason why he should strive that much to meet us.

If, however, maintained a firm and decisive, the other will feel humanity is to seek our sympathy and will do so by giving at least some of what we ask.

5. Put your ego in the background.

Often pronounce the word "I" does not help to achieve consensus. If we want our party rather than admit that things would never want to say, we must shift the focus of our discussion from the personal level to a more neutral, trying to be as objective as possible.

After these five basic steps, it is still said that the other shows a willingness to meet us ... .. it could be a tough nut to crack. But if so, faced with a request made in a clear and logical based on facts and not on the feelings he'll feel uncomfortable and not us!

The art of charisma - Part 2

             We said that the charisma is not a characteristic feature of quality of all but a few, and unfortunately over time many of us hide or adjust for social convenience.

But the good news is that fortunately never dies and you can resurface it with drilling techniques.

Here is a summary of what needs to be able to have charisma.

·                                  MUST HAVE BELIEFS charismatic. That is what we think and feel are worth for what we are really focusing our attention on our strengths and dropping instead what we like less. This means pleasure, without agreement and criticisms. It means being free of three great fears: failure, rejection, embarrassment. So, have charismatic beliefs means letting go with confidence to life in a mature and adult.

·                                  MUST BE IN MEMBER charismatic. I mean being able to create on us powerful mental states of passion, interest and inspiration. In practice it means: Whatever you want others to prove to you, you must first hear and feel inside of you.

·                                  MUST HAVE BEHAVIOR charismatic. That is to pay attention to posture, to walk, how to move, speak, look and listen. And then treat the image as a whole: physical appearance, hair, clothes, shoes etc.

·                                  MUST BE ABLE TO USE SKILLS '. After working on our beliefs, on the states and behaviors can also learn to use skills: such as the ability to speak in public, a sense of humor, persuasion, story telling.

         All this is possible but only if we work well on our self-esteem. Yes indeed, you will say.... But how do you like most and least critical? Learning to love and accept ourselves, improving our internal dialogue with phrases encouraging, empowering and the silencing that annoying little voice that is always ready to judge us.

         Devoting time and also taking care of ourselves, using the care and attention that they usually reserve for those we love, to love others because we first love ourselves.

         Did you know that to win the negativity is not strive to be positive? But trying to laugh, joke, and play down, yes. The true antidote to negativity is using humor!

         A truly useful and effective method to overcome the problems is to exaggerate them so much that they become ridiculous. In this way you can not help but laugh, I assure you.

         Try to apply this practice is for the negativity that part from you, for what you throw on the other. Exaggerating in your mind or aloud, the representation of a bad thing, you will notice that it will become so ridiculous it's ridiculous. This will remove power to the problem!

         Another very important thing to work on is how to manage the fear of rejection and failure. We are afraid of rejection because we give more value to what others tell us, the value that we give to ourselves. It’s the meaning we attach to the refusal to make us suffer, so you have to do in order to decrease the mean giving less importance.

        To combat these fears, we must try to feel better and always be in our state that physical and mental best. The states of mind are contagious, is spread from person to person, so if we want to look their best we need to feel better.

         And then a nice sentence to be pronounced in mind is that things go well, that does not happen, or nothing serious and worrying that something will go wrong if you really: who cares!

         This course, though only two days, give you more confidence and security in wanting to take over your life and in wanting to be leaders of your actions. Of course we can not think of ourselves and change some limiting beliefs that we carry with us for years in just two days, unfortunately.

         But I can assure you that once triggered some mechanisms in our mind and felt the pleasure but still shy and uncertain to be close to what we have always wanted to be, you can not go back.

         At least not completely, in the sense that some mistake or there may be fallout, but who cares! So you can not do anything but move forward and improve every day, more and more. I leave you some wonderful words with the hope that they might be inspired as they were for me.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, to frighten us. We ask ourselves: "And who am I to be brilliant, beautiful, talented, fantastic?”

On second thought, who are you to not be all that? You're a creature of God to keep a low profile your not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking, people should feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are all born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

There are only some of us, in all of us. Every time we make our inner light shine, we unconsciously everyone the chance to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. "

The art of charisma - Part 1

     What is the charisma for you? Have you ever had to engage in such things you do and however you feel that your potential is beyond your performance?

     Probably good you are professionals, serious, competent, and know a lot of things, but feel that you could do more, that you are missing something, that something special to make what you do and you say, unforgettable in the eyes of those who see and hear you.

     If so, you may want to have more charisma, which means of communication have charm, personal magnetism, ability to drag the others, all qualities that are attributed to those who can generate enthusiasm in others, devotion, and consensus for this are called leaders.

Some say that charisma is an innate quality, a quality which belongs to a select few. Others say that is a quality that belongs to all people, but in life some people develop more and others much less or even forgotten.

     So, following this second theory that I really like, charisma is a potential more or less asleep or hidden in all of us that with the right resources and appropriate information can go back to the surface.

     In fact have you ever wondered why a child of four years he has charisma and a man of forty is boring? Because they grow become too serious, we take ourselves too seriously and to feel accepted by all hide our hearts.

     Instead to be charismatic, we have to be spontaneous and less focused on results. Act for what we feel within ourselves, without fear of being criticized and the need to get approval at all costs. Just like a child would be four years.

     To do this we listen to our heart and make him talk, but at the same time also be humble and understand what is expected of our party. If you want to create a positive contact with each other, is that you have to take the first step and not vice versa, but not trying to please him at all costs, but showing an interest and pleasure for him!

     The interest, curiosity and empathy that you will be able to send, will make him feel at ease and unconsciously he will thank you for the importance that you have shown, making you realize that he likes you too! Want to be loved by others? He loves you first! Do you want to please others? Do not despise them, but do not demonstrate superiority discover what may like them!

     The trick is to think that others are nice people and pleasant, even before trying it. And this, let me, it's also a great exercise of altruism and not just have charisma! If we move without showing acceptance for others, because we become easily receive the same attitude we have. If we show interest and pleasure for others, automatically become interesting and enjoyable for them.

The Power of Words

Words have great power over us. Be aware of that can help us a lot in life.

Verbal communication was created in our minds and as such is an expression of our way of being and feeling.

Through the words we express the way we perceive and interpret reality, but changing the type of words we are also able to change the vision of reality itself, because different words produce different sensations.

It is a bit like saying that our vision of reality is that it depends on how we tell and use a word rather than another will significantly change the view of reality itself.

This is because the words we communicate our thoughts to others, but first of all we inform ourselves.

Telling someone, "I spent a wonderful evening" or "wonderful" results not only in the listener, but also in the speaker's feelings other than those that prove by saying simply: "It was a nice evening" or "normal."

It is worthwhile therefore to better investigate the effects that we want to produce on others, but also on us. This does not mean we pretend our feelings, but understand that in certain circumstances of life can help ease the "burden" of words by acting on their meaning.

Phrases like "no I'll never," "I'm ugly nobody wants," not capable "are full of intense emotions and negative that are repeated constantly in our minds and our beliefs become our reality, little by little.

That's why it's so important to become aware of the power of words and hypnotic effects that first and foremost on our minds, then inevitably the others.

In this way we will automatically reality different and perhaps better.