The Secret Of Effective Communication

Maybe some time it will happen to you to have the feeling of not being understood  and then think about how to improve your communication.

Communication is a process and more specifically, an exchange of shares that generate emotions in people involved.

A communication is never without effect, even when it does not produce the desired results.

We communicate not only through words but also with the body, the look, by any means or instrument available at various levels and above: clearly, subtly, and indirectly.

In short it means exist to communicate, but does not automatically make themselves understood!

In fact, if you think about it we live surrounded by a large amount of stimulation, information, stress, but how many of these really capture the sign and leave a trace in time?

If you want your communication is a quality that does not fall on deaf ears or leave time that is, you not only express what you have in mind, but also strive to reach out to whom it is intended for your message.

Thus, a very important thing you must do if you want to achieve effective communication is a priority:

Understanding the mental map of the others.

The mind map is a personal and subjective view of the world that each of us according to his own experience, their experiences, their culture, etc.

Understanding the map or vision of another person means to identify himself in his experiences to better understand their reactions.

The better you know the maps of others and the more you can get close to them because your personal vision of the world is not isolated or designed yourself, but is enriched by the knowledge of other maps.

In this sense, the more you are able to create connections between you and your surroundings, the more you expand the way you feel.

Therefore your ability to get close to others deepens and hence the ability to find solutions for those who must receive the message.

Another important factor concerns the ability to:

Convey emotions.

A communication that passes through an emotion is more likely to be understood and to have effect, even after a long time!

Many people know about, but few can also move and this is the factor that makes the difference. The great communicators are such because they are able to convey strong emotions in those who watch and listen to them.

There is one that aims at the heart of the people and not just the brain. To leave a deep impression on you and your charisma must learn to convey emotions.

In what way?  Creating emotions for you!  You want others to laugh, cry, get angry etc..?  First one to do!

But remember: if you want to do more and be credible with conviction, which means really excited!

The secret of being credible and therefore "true" is to get into the right state of mind.

Learn to create the first in that state that you want to inspire in those who listen to you and look at you.

The "state" is the physical and mental condition where you are and that affects your behavior. If you want results that correspond to your expectations, you have to make sure you're in the right state of mind, together with the right physiology.

To do this exercise with creative visualization.  You want others to laugh, cry, and hang from your lips? Be the first to yourself what you get from others.

Enter into that particular psycho-physical state and record what you hear, what you feel, assumable on you, on your skin, your posture, to your voice, your breath, behave in practice as if you were experiencing that exact situation.

If you are successful from the start in tune with the mental map of your partners, most likely unconsciously accept to share with you the emotional state you are sending them.

But if the way someone tells you not to understand clearly what you are saying or just do not agree, you have to do even a little effort:

Be flexible.

If you want others to understand you must be flexible and be ready to change the type of communication if necessary.

So if someone tells you not to have understood the concept rather than repeat the same words as before as many do, try different words and sentences. 

In practice put in place a new strategy: allocation of its mental map, this time asking if the idea that you've done is correct or not, then start over by re-establishing an emotional contact other than the first, until you realize that your message was understood correctly.

An effective communication is based on the response you get from your audience and not on what you think.

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